Dating On The Safe Side

• Trust your instincts: When it comes to dating, you have to be responsible for "your own safety. So when that little voice inside speaks up and says that something's not quite right, we urge you to listen and just walk away. Chances are your subconscious picked something up that your conscious mind didn't.

• Protect your identity: Don't reveal your identity if you're not confident that the person is worthy of your trust. That's why your Message center mailbox is a double-blind system. It lets you communicate anonymously until you decide to reveal more information.

• Ask for a photo: A picture is worth a dozen clues about a person. If the person you're talking to won't send you one, it may be a sign to just walk away.

• Take it slow: Don't let anyone pressure you into a date. Get to know the person online first, then on the phone. If it doesn't feel right, say thanks and move on.

• Phone before you date: The phone gives you the best blend of anonymity, privacy, and “social presence" (meaning you still get a good sense of what the other person is like). Use whatever privacy features your phone offers to keep your number safe. If you decide to meet, then...

• Meet publicly: If you choose to meet someone in person, a well-populated, public venue (like a coffee shop) is usually a smart option. It's always a good idea to have cab fare (or a car) and your mobile phone with you, and to let others know where you'll be.